Over the last few weeks, K and I shared some LDR firsts.
Our first time flying together ☺️
Heading to Canada 🇨🇦
The first time K met my littles
Our first Valentines Day, which began with our first hotel stay together 😏😁
This past week, we’ve endured another first.
Our first fight 😤😢
I read a quote this morning that really resonated with me after this past week of disagreements between K and myself.
Absence sharpens love; Presence strengthens it
K and I have been doing some major sharpening the last few days.
Fighting with someone you love is never easy but when your person is almost 4000km away it’s excruciating. Communicating through text can be frustrating and misconstruing. You can’t hold your partner after you’ve hurt them with sometimes senseless but more often misunderstood words.
I’ve often read that communication in an LDR is vital for long term success. But isn’t this true for all relationships?
I have a bad habit of being too cautious with my words. Spoken or written phrases can never be taken back. I’d rather say nothing in fear of saying the wrong thing. Now that I’m in a relationship where the majority of our interactions are verbal or written, I’ve had to push myself to communicate openly, honestly and sometimes even at the risk of hurting the one I love.
There are things that K and I have chosen to agree to disagree on at this point. Accepting that we are at an impasse and not getting stuck in the unending cycle of non constructive discussion is only possible because of the respect we have for one another. I admire K and her pertinacity. I do not wish to chip away at her resolve. I can not allow my desire to be right to overshadow my responsibility to care for the person I’ve chosen to love.
Communication is not one of my strong points but I am learning and growing. I’m still figuring out if being in a long distance relationship is the reason for my improved skills or if it’s simply that I’ve found the person worth bettering myself for.